|—||Lindsey Hall and Monika Ostroff, Anorexia Nervosa: A Guide to Recovery|
I don’t know. What I do know is, if this is you doing this, then get serious help please. NOW!
We forget that we can’t turn a positive body image into just another thing to get obsessed about; another path for seeking perfection. We forget that weight loss isn’t a panacea. It isn’t the answer to our pain.
All support carers whether they be medical or family, can only ever give just support. The decision and responsibility of recovery lie with you. You have to decide if you really want this, then you must make the commitment and decision to fight back. I know this is hard for you, but each step forward no matter how small becomes a bigger step. It does gradually become easier. The good thing about having a counsellor or psychologist is that they can teach you distraction techniques and other coping skills that help you negotiate life so you don’t use the ED as a protecting armour. For now your partner needs support himself. He needs his own support team just give him time to refresh and care for himself - otherwise yes he is going to burn out completely. Can you do that?
It is kind of similar here at the moment. My daughter has leaned heavily on me for the last 4 years. Now she is an adult, she has to make the responsibility of recovery for herself and take control. If she doesn’t, she won’t be able to live a normal life doing everything that others take for granted.